Coaching Assumptions

• Coaching is about choice, assisting people to uncover new choices and resources to use.
• The past does not dictate the future.
• There is no such thing as failure only feedback; there are not mistakes only results. They are either results we like or results we don’t like.
• The response you are getting is your responsibility. If you are not getting the response you want, it’s your responsibility to change your approach until you do.
• People are not broken, they work perfectly well. They do not need to be fixed.
• There is no such thing as unresourceful people, only unresourceful states. People have all the resources to make the changes they desire; they just need to tap into the correct emotional states to access them.
• People make the best decisions given the resources that they have.
• All external behaviour is the result of an internal process.
• Our perception of reality is not reality. It is however real to us.
• We do not operate directly on our world but rather through our perceptual map of the world.
• Flexibility is key. The person with the most behavioural flexibility will control any situation
• The meaning of your communication is the response you receive, regardless of your intention when you communicate. It is not the listener’s responsibility to get the message.
• The highest quality of information in any interaction is behavioural. Watch your physiology, not your words.
• The mind and body are all part of the same system.
• People communicate on two levels, the conscious and unconscious.
• Every behaviour has a positive intention for the person doing the behaviour – either to gain pleasure or avoid pain.
• Success leaves clues. If you do what other people have done you will get the same results.