When I recently looked up the word “WORRY” in the dictionary one of the definitions was “to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts”. Sounds like something you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy doesn’t it? Why on earth would we want to put ourselves through this?
When it comes to past experiences perhaps at some level we feel bad about what we have done and this is a way of punishing ourselves. The truth however is that we always do the best we can with the resources we have at the time. You need to ask yourself “Am I happy with the results I am seeing in my life right now?” If you are not then acknowledge it and start to look at what you can begin to do differently.
It’s so important to remember when you are feeling low that making mistakes is all part of life as without falling over from time to time we would never grow as human beings. The key is to always learn from our past experiences. Once we learn we have never failed.
I am sure you already know that the worst experiences in life are guaranteed to bring about the most positive change and growth within ourselves. As M Scott Peck says
“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.”
So let’s look at some great ways to stop us worrying whether it is related to the past or the future.
Every new day is a new beginning; write it on a piece of paper and stick it on your bathroom mirror where you will see it every morning. Each new day is a blank canvas. You and only you have the choice to paint it how you want it. Will you choose to paint a masterpiece or just any old painting?
Live in day tight compartments; meaning that we must really start to realize that the past is gone, the future has not yet arrived and there is only now! Focus on today only and know the best way to get ready for tomorrow is to concentrate on today. Write down at least two action steps you can do today to improve your life and do them. Remember today lived well makes every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Start to count your blessings and not your misfortunes; nearly everyone I meet could give me a list of all the bad things that are happening in their life right now but you can be guaranteed that it would take them a while to come up with a list of at least 10 good things. Write down at least 10 good things that are happening in your life right now. When you begin to focus on what’s good you will begin to feel good.
Finally I wanted to end this blog with a quote for you to ponder upon
“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today”.
